Congrads on yr successful move! :D It's always nice to have that particular stress behind you. I hope yr feeling better now too. Funny, the overwhelming thought i had when reading yr revelatory paras was "join the club, i don't know who i am either". But, on the other hand, i certainly know what/who i am not. Perhaps that's a good place to start? And certainly there is a difference between having aspirational goals and identifying with them to the point of rigidity, which i find a lot of ppl do. Hell, i used to do that, and in the end i had to let go of a lot of who i thought i was. I guess what i try to do now is keep my core self flexible and distinct from my goals and my boundaries.
But hey, no rush to work yrself out all in a year or two - it takes most ppl their entire life! :)
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Date: 2008-08-15 01:28 pm (UTC)Funny, the overwhelming thought i had when reading yr revelatory paras was "join the club, i don't know who i am either". But, on the other hand, i certainly know what/who i am not. Perhaps that's a good place to start? And certainly there is a difference between having aspirational goals and identifying with them to the point of rigidity, which i find a lot of ppl do. Hell, i used to do that, and in the end i had to let go of a lot of who i thought i was. I guess what i try to do now is keep my core self flexible and distinct from my goals and my boundaries.
But hey, no rush to work yrself out all in a year or two - it takes most ppl their entire life! :)